Is it Too Late if Your Spouse Wants a Divorce?
Once you get to the point where your spouse actually wants to file for divorce and has maybe moved out and gotten on with his or her life, you may feel like you have no options when it comes to reconciliation or getting back the love you once had.
You start to feel like you don’t have the connection you once had to your spouse. It’s hard to talk about how you feel with them like you once did. You feel uncomfortable, scared, insecure, and unloved. Of course, if you didn’t have those feelings, you wouldn’t be in this position now.
So, what happens if your spouse does say they are ready for a divorce? Do you give up and throw in the towel? Is it too late to save your marriage? There are a few indicators to look at in terms of deciding whether or not your marriage is over for good.
These include your level of communication with your spouse and the amount of interaction as well as the quality of your communication with your spouse. Is it only surface-level conversations, or do you feel like you can dive deeper with your spouse? Is there still positivity there?
How much anger is involved? Are you completely ignoring each other, fighting frequently, unable to speak effectively? Though dealing with these issues is difficult, it doesn’t always spell disaster. Each problem has a solution, and we have seen for ourselves that it’s never truly too late.
There is always a reason for a marriage ending. In fact, putting together a broken marriage requires a good deal of risk on both parts, and you’re probably concerned. You’ll need to address the issues before you even think about fixing your marriage and getting on the road back to a healthy relationship.
The injured party needs a guarantee that they can be vulnerable with their spouse and won’t end up getting hurt once they start to build trust again. After an affair or months of arguing and painful conversations, doubts and fears are common, and it’s okay to feel this way. But, if you’re serious about fixing your marriage, we can help give you what you need to change your relationship.
Getting to the point of feeling hurt and hopeless isn’t uncommon. Both parties simply need to be willing to take the steps required in order to build back what was lost. It isn’t easy, but it’s doable.
Another situation where a reconciliation may not happen would be if your spouse has actually put in a commitment to another person, whether it’s through engagement or having a child with another person. Barring these situations, there are solutions available.
These are the only two situations where it may be near impossible to get back what you had with your spouse. Even situations that seem dire can be fixed with the right tools. You can’t make someone else change, but there are tools you can use to create a more favorable situation.
Not every situation can be salvaged easily. If there is no communication, if your spouse won’t talk to you at all, it presents a challenge when it comes to reconciliation. When basic interactions have gone away, it’s not easy to let your spouse know how you feel. The lines of communication will need to be opened up, and we can help.
We know there are multiple approaches to fixing a marriage. Giving up too soon is a common problem between spouses when obstacles seem innumerable.
If you and your spouse are still interacting positively and you can see that your partner isn’t completely committed to getting a divorce, there’s room to repair the relationship. It will be hard work and isn’t without its frustrations, but it’s definitely doable.
You’ll have your doubts, and that’s okay! We understand why you feel doubtful and worried about whether your marriage can be saved. That’s why we zero in on your marriage and give you a custom plan for your specific situation, giving you the tools for the task. We’ve taken couples who were barely speaking and helped them find their way back to each other and reconnect, rekindling that love.
Do you feel gun-shy about being hurt and scared your spouse will continue to hurt you? That’s just one of the issues that we will address in order to propel your progress forward. Communication is the key that can break through the walls you and your spouse have between each other.
Let’s face it – divorce isn’t the best solution. It’s often messy, expensive, and heartbreaking. Your spouse likely just wants to be heard, needs to feel secure, and is looking for certainty. They may realize the more appealing option is fixing what they already have rather than moving on.
Don’t give up on having the dream marriage that you want. Even if it’s been difficult in the past, we can help you fix your marriage and bring the love back to your life.
We are committed to helping you get the support you need. We have helped couples in your situation turn things around fast. Book a complimentary consultation with us here: